Rekindling Relationships

A is for Attachment

Why is understanding attachment theory helpful to creating a better relationship? We share our thoughts on the 4 different styles of attachment and how they impact relating and communication between couples. We explore how attachment styles show up in our lives and the ways we can feel more secure in our relationships. 
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Some great resources on attachment theory and relationships for you to check out-
Hold Me Tight: Your Guide to the Most Successful Approach to Building Loving Relationships. By Sue Johnson
https://amzn.to/3b59eFG
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. By John Gottman
https://amzn.to/3rTckDJ
Eight Dates: To keep your relationship happy, thriving and lasting. By John Gottman
https://amzn.to/3jRTBFO  
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find--and Keep-- Love. By Levine and Heller
https://amzn.to/3jM1XyD 
 

B is for Blocks

What are the emotional blocks that can get in the way of our relationships? How do we address them so that they don’t hinder us from connecting on a deeper level? We discuss where these blocks come from and how we can work together to remove them. 
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C is for Conflict

It’s more rewarding to resolve a conflict than dissolve a relationship. 
Why does conflict happen in relationships? What makes conflict worse and how do we resolve it? Bec and Vern discuss how to deal with conflict in a healthy and constructive way, so that we can deal with life's stressors and support relationship growth.
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Some great resources on  relationships and dealing with conflict for you to check out-
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. By John Gottman
https://amzn.to/3rTckDJ
Eight Dates: To keep your relationship happy, thriving and lasting. By John Gottman
https://amzn.to/3jRTBFO  
The Relationship Cure. By John Gottman
https://amzn.to/2OCvakd
 

D is for Distractions

What sort of distractions erode our relationships? Why is being distracted dangerous to our relationships? How do we stop being distracted and be more present and connected? Bec and Vern discuss these questions to support couples to build more trust and connection with each other.  
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E is for EFT

What is Emotionally Focused Therapy? Why is it seen as one of the most effective treatments for supporting couples to reconnect and shift old patterns of relating? Bec and Vern talk about why they see EFT as a valuable tool for growth and how they use it with couples.  
Check out our website or socials to find out more:
https://rekindlingrelationships.com/
https://www.facebook.com/becandvern 
 
Some great resources on EFT and attachment theory for you to check out-
Hold Me Tight: Your Guide to the Most Successful Approach to Building Loving Relationships. By Sue Johnson
https://amzn.to/3b59eFG
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. By John Gottman
https://amzn.to/3rTckDJ
Eight Dates: To keep your relationship happy, thriving and lasting. By John Gottman
https://amzn.to/3jRTBFO  
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find--and Keep-- Love. By Levine and Heller
https://amzn.to/3jM1XyD 

F is for Fears

What can be the biggest fears in a relationship? Where do they come from and how can we overcome them? We all have fears and stepping into intimate relationships can trigger them within us. Bec and Vern discuss their own fears and how they have worked to conquer them and move forward together.
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https://www.facebook.com/becandvern 
 

G is for Goals

Why are relationship goals important to our growth as couples and how can we set these goals together? Bec and Vern give goal setting a go and discuss what they found out in the process. 
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Some great resources on couples goal setting for you to check out-
Goal Setting Worksheet for Couples
https://ofthehearth.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/11/AnnualGoalSettingWorksheetforCouples.pdf
https://www.gottman.com/blog/6-hours-a-week-to-a-better-relationship/
Eight Dates: To keep your relationship happy, thriving and lasting. By John Gottman
https://amzn.to/3jRTBFO 
 

H is for Holding Space

What does it mean to Hold Space and why is it important in a healthy relationship? Bec and Vern discuss these questions and explain how we can do this with our partner.
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I is for Intimacy

How do we bring more intimacy into our relationship? Bec and Vern discuss what intimacy means, some of the issues that can hinder intimacy between couples, as well as talking through their own fears around intimacy. 
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J is for Jealousy

What is jealousy and how does it come up in relationships? Bec and Vern ponder whether jealousy is actually a negative emotion and what we can do about it. 
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